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A Mama To Two: One Year In

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It is almost one year since Ted took me from a Mama of one wild toddler in to the brand new territory of motherhood to two children.

How did this happen? Surely only yesterday I was solo back packing around Australia, having wild nights out at Uni and having multiple holidays per year. I am not old enough or wise enough to parent two children!

This year has been challenging to say the least. Having had an easy baby in Elsa I expected much the same and to take having two children in my stride.

Ted had other ideas.

His entrance to the world could not have been more different to Elsa’s, calm, quick, dare I say easy! However as a baby he has also been the complete opposite. A terrible sleeper, clingy, in need of a dummy to stop the constant feeding.

I have learnt a few things over the last year that have made my life a little bit easier:

Organisation is key

With Elsa starting nursery school in January I need to have two children up, fed and dressed promptly on a morning. Most Mama’s appear to take this in their stride but I am not great at getting myself up on a morning, let alone two small people. Laying out clothes, bags, having sandwiches made the night before is the only way I have managed to be nearly on time. Basically do as much as possible so that breakfast can be thrown at them & then shoehorn them into clean clothes as quickly as possible.

 

You do get used to the lack of sleep

We all expect a lack of sleep after having a baby. We don’t necessarily expect no sleep for weeks followed by a few hours sleep a night for months. By the time Ted was 4 months old I was averaging 5 hours sleep a day. This is not enough for me. But there comes a point where you seem to move past the tiredness. You gradually become used to less sleep and begin to function better. This is not to say you are not knackered but you do become able to manage.

 

Choose your battles

I have 3 year old. Every day there is a battle about something but there would be infinitely more if I didn’t let some things go. I am not saying you can be totally slack but weighing up the necessity of arguing over something relatively minor has helped a lot.

 

Never say no to a cup of tea

No more needs to be said about this really. I go to Baby & Toddler playgroups purely because I will get a cup of tea there.

 

Going from one to two has been a far bigger shock for me than going from none to one. With your first baby you can still be very selfish. There is only the two of you to think about so if you want to stay in bed all day you can do. Not so much when number 2 comes along. But obviously I wouldn’t change anything. Well…maybe the the sleep thing!

 

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Diary Of An Umbilical Hernia (Part One)

After Ted was born his umbilical cord did as they all do and hung about for a week or so, getting increasingly crusty, before falling off. Not one for keepsakes, especially of the rotting flesh kind, it quickly went in the bin and we thought no more about it.

 

Four weeks later I noticed one morning that his belly button we looking slightly ‘sticky out-y’ but thought it must be that Ted was going to have an outie rather than an innie. A few hours later, at bathtime, S commented on it too and that’s when I realised that it must be something as he never notices anything!

 

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So I googled. That was a bad move, It’s never wise to attempt to google anything medical, particularly not if it involves your children because you will self-diagnose the worst possible thing. So instead I did the sensible thing and sent a picture to my Brother In Law who’s a GP who confirm what I really did think. An Umbilical Hernia.

 

I had never heard of or come across this before but it is apparently a relatively common thing, affecting up to 1 in 10 babies to some extent. They occur when the circle of muscle surrounding the umbilical cord doesn’t close up quite as quickly as they should. At Ted’s 6 week check the GP advised that it causes no pain and that 95% of them sort themselves out by the time that baby is one. The four (4!) student GP’s who where on in his 6 week check all had a good poke at it. None of them had seen an umbilical hernia before. Given the way they undressed Ted with fear and trepidation in their eyes I would hazard a guess that they’d not seen a baby before either!

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Apart from me freaking out about being able to feel his milk moving through it, we have had no issues with it. And fast forward 8 weeks and it has suddenly and definitely started to shrink. From Ted’s belly button being stretched to the maximum as it is in the above photo he now has a little crease of skin around it again. Hopefully it will retreat as fast as it appeared and I am definitely hopeful that it will be gone and there will be no surgery required.

 

In the meantime I just have to avoid touching it so I don’t feel all the inner workings of his digestive system. Weird.

 

CLAIRE